She Likes It, She Really Likes It!
This is the single most important part of the blowjob. The pleasure you take in giving it. When a man is in this position, he is at his most vulnerable. He is open and exposed to you. (Remember, your vagina doesn’t have teeth!) For me, this amount of trust is breathtaking and beyond arousing. I always take it as the profound and delightful gift it is.
Cleanliness is Next to…Many women hesitate to perform fellatio because of the smell or taste. Personally, I love that particularly masculine scent, but if it turns you off, don’t worry, warm water and a washcloth are a great way to start a blowjob, and the rough cloth and some gentle rubbing and squeezing will go a long way toward getting him hard. Don’t make a big deal out of it. Just make it part of foreplay.
Slow and Steady Wins the Race Tease. Spend time. Don’t just start out like a Hoover on overdrive. Tickle his thighs with your fingernails. Kiss his chest and belly. Lick the inside of his thighs. Nibble and suck on his balls. (Careful! Some guys are too sensitive here for this.) Avoid the cock for a while. Then play with the shaft (which is much less sensitive than the head) before moving on to the top.
Breast Obsessed You’ve got them – don’t forget to use them! Their size and shape don’t matter – rub them over his chest and belly on your way down to the promised land. Drag them over his cock. Press his cock between them for a moment and try to reach it with your tongue. Slap your nipples with the head. Rub pre-cum over them. (You can rub the final cum over them, too, but we’ll talk about that later!)
Pant RantFollow his breath, not your own. I admit, sucking cock turns me on. Sometimes it gets me more aroused than even he is at the moment! (Hey, I’m an excitable girl, what can I say?) So a good rule of thumb is to follow his breath. Match your rhythm, whether mouth or hand, with how fast he’s breathing, speeding up as he does, and you’ll pretty much be on target.
Equipment Tips The cock is basic: head, shaft, testicles. The shaft has the least amount of nerve endings amongst the three. The balls are very sensitive, but in a different way from the head. Think of the cock head as your clit. If he’s uncircumcised, it’s really quite similar, because his foreskin serves to protect the deliciously sensitive nub underneath. If he’s circumcised, the most sensitive part of the cock is usually what’s called the frenulum—that arrow-shaped V on the underside at the tip.
But just like us girls, guys really like the build up, so remember to tease, follow his breath, and make him wait for it. Use his foreskin (if he still has it) to caress the cock head, up and down. Even if he’s cut, there’s usually still enough loose skin left on the shaft to bring it up and tease the head of the cock. Guys like that. It’s what stroking is all about.
This is really the least important part of the blowjob. Tips and techniques are secondary, and they vary so much, depending on the man involved. I’ve known men who have balls so sensitive they can’t have to stand them touched, let alone sucked and licked. On the other end of the spectrum, I’ve known men who get off on having them scratched, pulled and twisted. There are men who love blowjobs with no hands – they want all mouth. There are those who get off on the hand and mouth coordination. Some love to be sucked hard as a Hoover. Others like it light and slow, even at the end. And there’s every part of the spectrum in between. The variations are endless. Truly, just endless.